Relatively embarrassing


My nephew, Mark, when he was a mischievous 10 year old, embarrassed his parents at a family gathering and silenced a restaurant. Taking advantage of a lull in the adult conversation he announced “The other day I saw mum and dad wrestling”. Then with the timing of a seasoned comic he paused. My mother, unaware that her eldest son, my brother, had an interest in the sport, smiled indulgently. My father, certain his eldest son didn’t know a half nelson from a crotch lift, narrowed his eyes. “They were in bed” he added teasingly. Another hiatus, then, sure that he had the full attention of his pink faced parents, his grandparents, other assorted relatives and the diners at nearby tables, Mark delivered the coup de grace; “and they were naked!” Many years later my mother, then almost 80, in her second childhood and mildly unhinged, embarrassed me in a restaurant.

Soon after the death of my father we had moved my mother from Scotland to Holmewood a retirement home near to us in Leeds. One afternoon were sat in The Mansion, then a restaurant with pretensions of fine dining.
“Do you remember Doctor Sommerville?” enquired my mother in her mild but loud Scottish accent.
A memory of Doctor Sommerville swam into my mind, he was sitting on the edge of my bed crying, my father consoling him. I was 9 years old ill with bronchitis and he had called one morning straight from attending a car crash with two fatalities, two local brothers.

“Yes, mum, I remember Doctor Sommerville.”

“You know?”

“Know what mum?”

“When you were a child”

“When I was a child, what?”

“What he said about you.”

The chit chat and the chink of cutlery was suspended. Everyone within twenty yards wanted to hear what Doctor Sommerville had revealed about me.

“He said you had very large bowels”

The lady at the next table quietly choked. Further afield there was a muffled sniggers and suppressed guffaws. I frantically rummaged my mind for a change of topic.

“How are you settling in at Holmewood mum?” I asked confident that I was skating on thicker ice.

“It’s a grand place” she said, “there’s a nice library. It’s in the conservatory.”

“That’s good.” My mother enjoyed reading. “Any interesting books?”

“The book I’m reading is about two women.”


“They’re lesbians.” She smiled menacingly, “And you know?”

My world tilted. The restaurant again stilled. The refined lady at the next table spasmed, choking violently, her face the colour of the wine that was slowly spreading on the table cloth, as the astonished waiter missed her glass. The maître d was staring across the room, possibly considering asking us to leave but more probably trying to recall the Heimlich Manoeuvre.

“Know what, mum?” I asked recklessly into the silence.

“They were licking each other’s …………..”

“Bill please!” I shouted, a little hysterically, as my mother’s clearly enunciated Scottish ‘r’s undulated across the restaurant.

4 thoughts on “Relatively embarrassing

  1. When I was about 8 I was in a crowded bakery with my father. Above the general din my father asked if they had rum cake. The male clerk loudly replied, “I don’t have rum cake but I have rum balls”. Without missing a beat my father said, “you had better see a doctor about that”. The entire bakery exploded in a spasm of laughter. For me, it was a sweet memory of his sense of humor. I hope the clerk had a good laugh too


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